Sunday, August 21, 2011

Pop Pop

College graduation, May 2006


August has been a trying month.

On August 8th I said goodbye to Keith as he headed to Afghanistan.

August 9th was my dad's 56th birthday, the fourth since he died.

And today, August 21st, my grandpa passed away.

My grandpa, affectionately called Pop Pop, was one of the kindest, fairest and most generous people I've ever known.  The head of our family, he was the patriarch who gave me advice and guidance throughout my life.

And he wasn't just that way towards his family.  Whether you were the waitress bringing him his hamburger and milkshake or a passenger sitting next to him on an airplane, he genuinely cared about you.

Pop Pop was married to my grandma for 60 years, which is such a gift... not just to each other but to our entire family.  They went through their share of hard times, but getting over each of life's hurdles reiterated the lesson that love prevails.

In losing my grandfather, I am also losing his connection to my father.  And while I tend to shy away from religious talk here, I have to say that thinking about what it must have been like when my dad and Pop Pop were reunited makes me so happy.

There are many things I still hope to do in this life and I wish so badly that I could share them with my dad and grandpa.  Instead of focusing on that, I'm trying to be grateful for all of the things in my life that the two of them made possible.

In one of our last phone conversations, as we said goodbye, Pop Pop said, "Thank you for everything, Jen."  But it's the other way around... I'm the one overflowing with gratitude that he was my grandfather, that he was around for 27 years of my life, and that he will watch over me for all of the rest.

(PS - thank you for the kind words on Twitter - y'all are the best.)

11 comments:

  1. I'm very sorry for your loss, but I am happy to see that you are still staying optimistic about this by smiling at the fact that your dad is now reunited with his dad. It makes me sad that this past month has been a tough one for you, but I hope that the next couple months and years will bring you nothing but joy and laughter. You definitely deserve it. :)

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  2. a captivating post, as usual my dear. Pop Pop was a lucky man indeed. All my condolences in this trying time.

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  3. Why do you make me cry!? That is so sweet! I'm glad you have such fond memories of your grandfather!

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  4. oh Jen, I'm so sorry for your loss. it's never easy, but it sounds like you've had a wonderful relationship with your grandparents, which many people don't ever get to have.

    I would say keep your chin up, but I know you already are.

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  5. oh friendito i know i've already talked to you but this post just brought me to tears. love you.

    sending lots of hugs and bed jumps and face traces your way :)

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  6. what a beautiful entry! I'm sending good thoughts your way and here's to hoping that September is waaay less trying than august!

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  7. Such a tough month for you.

    Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

    If you ever need to talk (email) I'm here for you!!!!!!

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  8. I'm so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family. He sounds like an amazing man and grandpa, and this reminds me that I should spend as much time with my grandparents as I can, i love them so much!


    XOXO

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